Female Disruptors: Jenny Eversole of Style Space On The Three Things You Need To Shake Up Your…

Female Disruptors: Jenny Eversole of Style Space On The Three Things You Need To Shake Up Your Industry

An Interview With Candice Georgiadis

Prioritize & Focus. One of the biggest challenges as a founder and CEO is having so much to do and knowing which things to prioritize and focus on. It’s easy to get overwhelmed and focus too much on the wrong things. Knowing when to say yes or no is an important skill I’ve had to work on. When you say yes to one thing, you are ultimately saying no to another opportunity so choose wisely what is most important.

As a part of our series about women who are shaking things up in their industry, I had the pleasure of interviewing Jenny Eversole.

Jenny Eversole is the founder of Style Space, a personal styling platform to elevate your style with expert stylists, virtually. After nearly a decade running her own fashion label, she learned how personal style can make a big difference in one’s confidence, happiness and overall success. Jenny founded Style Space to empower people to look, feel and be their best, through personal style.

Thank you so much for doing this with us! Before we dig in, our readers would like to get to know you a bit more. Can you tell us a bit about your “backstory”? What led you to this particular career path?

I grew up in an artistic and entrepreneurial family. When I was 10, I started designing my own clothes with my mom. This started my love for fashion, style and business.

For nearly 10 years before starting my current company, Style Space, I was a founder and fashion designer at my own fashion label. It was a formidable time for me creatively and professionally and I learned a lot working within art and fashion. My biggest insights came from interacting with customers and understanding how to listen and talk to them. It was one of my favorite parts of being a designer and where I first began to understand how prolific the struggle with style confidence was for women and men alike — even seemingly well-to-do and smartly dressed individuals would confide their struggles with me. The insight that there was a gap in the market for personal styling paired with my own style dilemma, lead to an aha moment.

Shortly after my first pregnancy and giving birth to twins, I had a TV interview to highlight my latest fashion line. Being postpartum and experiencing lots of changes in my appearance, I was struggling to feel confident and look fashionable. I called my stylist sister in a panic just hours before the interview seeking advice, and a little reassurance, and the most remarkable thing happened. She styled me! Within a 30-minute video call I had with her, she helped me coordinate my outfit, guided me through my makeup look, and showed me what hairstyle to use. The experience was transformational! I went on and delivered my best TV interview and my confidence returned.

This experience fueled the idea for what would become Style Space, a full-service virtual platform that offers one-on-one personal styling in clothing, hair, makeup and skincare. I thought, if I was struggling with these style issues and could have such a transformational experience being styled, how many others could benefit too? Just like the thousands of customers I’d talked to over the years, and after working with fashion clients and stylists, it became clear that there was a gap in the market for accessible, affordable and personalized styling services where you could work directly with an expert stylist for any of your styling needs.

Can you share the most interesting story that happened to you since you began leading your company?

The best and most interesting thing for me is talking with our customers and hearing their success stories because of our service. It’s inspiring to see so many people brought together from all over the world to get styled. I’ve been amazed at how much you can accomplish working with a stylist, who, in just an hour online together, can coach you on how to find what silhouettes and colors are right for you, dress for a special event, and build a cohesive wardrobe that you love wearing — and of course, there’s hair, makeup and skincare too. A client told me that before Style Space, her physical appearance took the backseat and that even though she was in a leadership position, she wouldn’t turn on her Zoom camera to speak directly to her team or clients. After working with Style Space, she felt much more confident showing up for others, and most importantly, herself. These are the best stories for startup founders.

Can you share a story about the funniest mistake you made when you were first starting? Can you tell us what lesson you learned from that?

Yes, before we had launched Style Space, I was doing competitor research on a firm and sent an email to an executive of that company asking a question. However, I was mortified to realize I sent it from my official Style Space email instead of my personal email. For days after I thought this would somehow tip-off our would-be competition to our presence before we were ready. The reality was nothing ever came of it and now it’s something I laugh about. The lesson I learned was to be much more diligent about my emails and that executing on a plan is the most important criteria for success, not your competitor.

None of us are able to achieve success without some help along the way. Is there a particular person who you are grateful towards who helped get you to where you are? Can you share a story about that?

There are so many people that have helped me along the way by providing me with inspiration and tools for my personal development, to advocacy, mentorship and so much more. My co-founder, John — who is also my husband — has been the biggest influence in my life and success. He is the first person to encourage and support my goals and dreams while also challenging my ideas and offering an alternate point of view.

Another strong support in my life is my large family of entrepreneurs — my five siblings and parents all have their own businesses. This unusual dynamic makes our family like the Swiss Army knife of talents. Whenever I need help with marketing, UX/UI design, finance, business operations, hiring or any type of business advice, I can reach out to any family member who has the experience to help and also has an extensive network of people who can help.

The MOST important thing I have learned in business is to ask for help. There are so many people willing to help if you only ask for it. With almost any business question, either Google or a helpful person can provide an excellent solution to your problem.

Can you help articulate a few things that can be done as individuals, as a society, or by the government, to help overcome those obstacles?

One of the biggest reasons for the lack of female founders is the limited exposure to successful women founders in our places of work, friendship circles, communities and in the media. When women see other women thrive in entrepreneurship, they learn what is possible for themselves. As we continue to see more successful women entrepreneurs rise in the media, in leadership positions and in our immediate circles of influence, we will continue seeing an increase in women entrepreneurs.

We can help expose women to the possibilities of entrepreneurship through mentorship and capital to launch and grow their businesses. Established founders can also offer their skills, a brainstorming session, network connections and encouragement to women entrepreneurs. Sometimes all we need is one encouraging conversation to ignite our passion and be a catalyst for starting something.

This might be intuitive to you as a woman founder but I think it will be helpful to spell this out. Can you share a few reasons why more women should become founders?

We need more women founders and co-founders for diversity of thought, leadership and perspective in how we approach and solve today’s business and social challenges. Women don’t just make up half of the population, they represent the needs of society as a whole. Research has shown that women are on average better communicators, more collaborative problem solvers and more empathetic towards others and their needs. These are all qualities that we need more of in business and leadership.

I would also make a plug for women in the workplace in general. Harvard Business Review published an article which analyzed data on gender diversity in the workplace and found that it correlates with more productive companies in regions like the U.S. and Western Europe. They also noted that diverse workplaces are preferred destinations for candidates seeking employment and that organizations which invest in gender diversity generate more innovative ideas, which can lead to better product development and potential revenue verticals. With more women founders and co-founders leaning into entrepreneurship, gender diversity and the benefits that come with it, will help move industries towards greater productivity and innovation.

What are the “myths” that you would like to dispel about being a founder? Can you explain what you mean?

One myth is that you have to be young to be an entrepreneur, particularly if it’s a tech startup. This is not true. According to Harvard Business Review, the average founder age of the top 0.1% of startups based on growth in their first five years was 45. Another myth is that women have to be single and without kids to be a successful founder. That’s a personal choice, not a truism. I have personally met women founders of all ages, who come from a variety of career backgrounds, and who have succeeded with and without children. I have also observed many women professionals hold back from starting a family or a serious relationship because they fear their professional life will be compromised. Alternatively, I have seen women feel guilty about starting a business if they already have a family or are in a relationship. Many women founders have shown me that you don’t need to choose one or the other. Laura Vanderkam, a time management expert and author, taught me that I can thrive in both business and family life through her book I Know How She Does It and her podcast The Best of Both Worlds (I’m an avid listener and was a recent guest on her show). I highly recommend her work to anyone looking to succeed both in business and family.

Is everyone cut out to be a founder? In your opinion, which specific traits increase the likelihood that a person will be a successful founder and what type of person should perhaps seek a “regular job” as an employee? Can you explain what you mean?

Founders need to care a lot about their mission and the WHY behind what they started. They have to be willing to put in the time and effort to make their vision a reality and be willing to make sacrifices. It can be a huge grind before you ever see any results for your work. If you understand and accept this, it will make things a lot easier.

You need to have passion for learning new things, flexibility to pivot and adapt to anything thrown your way. Excellent leadership and communication skills are also a must. Most importantly, you need to believe in yourself and others. I emphasize the latter part as you need to rely on the skills of others to bring your vision to life.

Unlike a “regular job,” when you are starting a company, it is all up to you to make anything happen. Unless you delegate or hire it out, the job will not be done while you are sick or on vacation or clock out at 5 p.m.

Your success and failure rests entirely on your shoulders. This is very empowering and daunting all at once.

Ok super. Here is the main question of our interview. What are your “5 Things I Wish Someone Told Me Before I Started” and why? (Please share a story or example for each.)

1) Prioritize & Focus. One of the biggest challenges as a founder and CEO is having so much to do and knowing which things to prioritize and focus on. It’s easy to get overwhelmed and focus too much on the wrong things. Knowing when to say yes or no is an important skill I’ve had to work on. When you say yes to one thing, you are ultimately saying no to another opportunity so choose wisely what is most important.

2) Time management. Honing the skill of time management is crucial with so many moving parts as a manager. Learn time management from the best, whether it’s by working with a coach, reading books or listening to podcasts on the subject. It’s important to master a good time management system and flow that works best for you. I have learned to time block and use programs like Asana and google tasks/calendar to get my priorities met.

3) Mindset. I’ve studied a lot on mindset. I’ve taken workshops from Olympians and business leaders I admire and read many books on this topic. Mindset is truly everything. When you are striving for something very challenging, it will feel hard a lot of the time. There will be setbacks, tons of rejection, hard days and things that keep you up at night. Knowing how to keep a positive and focused mindset, regardless of all these things, is crucial for taking one step after another towards success.

4) Trust your gut and judgment. You know why you started your business and where you want to be more than any other person. Trust this and stay focused on this. Make sure anyone you choose to work with (investors, partners, employees, contractors, vendors, etc.) is aligned with your mission and goals.

5) Hire well, especially a project manager. Projects usually take twice as long and are more expensive than we plan for. Having a skilled project manager can help you best estimate how long a project will take and what it will cost. A good project manager has a deep understanding of each team members roles and skills and can project what resources you should invest into the sprint or feature, which will save you time and money. Additionally, being patient to find the right people for the job will save you time, money and give you peace of mind in the long run.

How have you used your success to make the world a better place?

Through my past and current business, I have mentored and taught hundreds of students, designers and entrepreneurs my fashion and style techniques and offered business advice. I even wrote a best-selling book on my fashion business to teach others my design techniques.

It is also very inspiring to see how Style Space has made an impact in so many people’s confidence through elevating their personal style. Style confidence is no small thing as it impacts your productivity, mood and overall success.

This is only the beginning though. There is still a lot I want to do to have a positive impact on the world for causes that are important for me.

You are a person of great influence. If you could inspire a movement that would bring the most amount of good for the greatest number of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger.

This is definitely a “world peace,” type question. Realistically, I think that what I’m doing at Style Space now is the best thing I can do to bring the most amount of good to people. Creating confidence in people is a big deal. And helping people express their best and most authentic self, by helping them dress or apply the right type of makeup or discover a hairstyle that looks amazing on them, is important. Many of our clients want to look and feel better, but simply don’t have the time or expertise to invest in those things. There is so much power in looking and feeling your best. It influences how you show up in the world, the kinds of people you will interact with and the opportunities you will attract. We help people achieve their goals and feel confident. If I can create a movement around that I will, because it’s a worthy cause.

We are very blessed that some very prominent names in Business, VC funding, Sports, and Entertainment read this column. Is there a person in the world, or in the US with whom you would love to have a private breakfast or lunch with, and why? He or she might just see this if we tag them.

Sara Blakely! She is a person I have admired most for a very long time. Not only did she build an incredible product and brand that I love, she has found ways to give back and share her success with others. Recently she created a MasterClass about her entrepreneurial success story and shared her lessons learned on topics like inventing, funding, marketing and more. I could fangirl on about Sara, but suffice to say she’s a great example for me and many other startup founders.

I would also be love to sit for a coffee with the following: Jess Lee of Sequoia Capital. She was a co-founder and CEO of a startup before becoming a partner at Sequoia Capital. I’ve followed and admired her work for a while, especially the advocacy work she does for women founders. Bestselling author Gretchen Rubin, is someone I also admire. Her books have been transformational for me understanding human behavior and how to best work with other people. I have so many questions for her I’d love to talk about! Stacey London of What Not to Wear, is someone I would love to discuss my business with and industry as a whole. I also think she would make a great future board member. And Sonali De Rycker of Accel, is someone I would really like to learn from. She’s a leading figure in tech and venture capital and someone who I’ve admired from a far. She’s also based in London, which is convenient for someone like me who’s based in Germany.

Thank you for these fantastic insights. We greatly appreciate the time you spent on this.


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Female Disruptors: Sophie Lalonde of Productboard On The Three Things You Need To Shake Up Your…

Female Disruptors: Sophie Lalonde of Productboard On The Three Things You Need To Shake Up Your Industry

An Interview With Candice Georgiadis

I would try to take on every request, and carry the team if needed, all because I thought that’s how I could best contribute. After getting burned out a few times, I realized my best self wasn’t coming through, I wanted a change. I started focusing on what sustainable success could look like, and the more I learned, the more I started seeing anecdotes about putting yourself first. It seemed counter-intuitive to me, but as I tried the different tactics, I started seeing a difference — a difference in the way my better mood impacted my team, a difference in my collected thoughts during a presentation, a difference in my output towards the things that actually mattered because I had deprioritized what didn’t matter. I was in almost all regards a better employee, boss, teammate, friend, contributor, and leader.

As a part of our series about women who are shaking things up in their industry, I had the pleasure of interviewing Sophie Lalonde.

Sophie Lalonde is Group Product Manager at Productboard. Sophie has a unique POV when it comes to product as she began her career in venture capital and management consulting at Bain, helping entrepreneurs strategize building products to different industries, and then was the first ever GM of Churn at Box, where she was responsible for 100M SMBs.

Thank you so much for doing this with us! Before we dig in, our readers would like to get to know you a bit more. Can you tell us a bit about your “backstory”? What led you to this particular career path?

Jill of all trades, master of none is what likely best describes my early career. My experiences ranged from asset management to consulting to venture capital. While it made for some great learning opportunities, and many of the jobs I did enjoy, I left business school at the University of Chicago knowing that I wanted to finally become an expert in a specific field.

Taking the time to find the right field was incredibly time intensive, and at times discouraging, but it ended up paying dividends tenfold now that I put in the work then. Something for me finally clicked when instead of focusing on what sounded cool, I started digging into the personality traits that would make someone successful in each department or field. It started to become more evident that product management would best leverage my natural and learned skill set, and I was pleased to see this come true at Box. I had the opportunity to work with a very high-functioning engineering, product, and design team, and I found ways to retain Box’s $100M self-serve book of business. ,

After Box, I started working at my current company Productboard where I serve as a Group Product Manager, building our first free offering and more recently our Customer Board. Working at Productboard is a very “meta” experience as product managers are creating a product for product managers that helps them engage with their customer base for feedback to better their own products. Thus I constantly have to check my biases and not just build a tool for myself, and listen to hundreds of product managers talk about their pain points and what they would like to be solved.

Jill of trades no longer, burgeoning product expert 🙂

Can you tell our readers what it is about the work you’re doing that’s disruptive?

69% of product teams say that the products and features they release are not consistently well-received by customers, and Productboard is on a mission to empower our customers to build the right products to market, faster. Leading brands like Toyota, Microsoft, Zoom, Volkswagen, and UiPath use Productboard to understand what customers need, prioritize what to build next, and align everyone around their roadmap. Without putting customer centricity at the center, brands would never evolve to meet the dynamic and changing needs of customers and risk falling behind the competition.

From my personal perspective, what excites me most though is how fast our market is growing in terms of size and maturity. We have prospects that tell us overnight every brand manager at their CPG company has become a product manager. We have customers who tell us that their number one goal of the year is their digital transformation. So I’d venture to say that the most disruptive work Productboard does is educate a new set of product managers on how to do their jobs well. Given that it is a role that I love, it really energizes me to see junior product managers come up and tell me they follow Productboard’s academy to create the right prioritization frameworks or shareable roadmaps. Productboard is not just a solution, but it is defining a new category.

Can you share a story about the funniest mistake you made when you were first starting? Can you tell us what lesson you learned from that?

I confused UI and UX…in front of the CEO. Facepalm 🤦‍♀️. One has to do with how it looks and the latter has to do with how it is used.

My lesson learned here was that taxonomy matters. Speaking confidently, like you are encouraged to do in consulting, only helps you so far in product if the content of what you are saying is correct. I’ve taken this lesson to many facets of my job now — I do not pretend to know what I don’t know. This allows my engineering and design counterparts to educate me and also feel empowered to become an equal part of the triad relationship we are striving towards. Bottom line, you’ll look smarter if you admit you don’t know something than confidently saying the wrong thing.

In today’s parlance, being disruptive is usually a positive adjective. But is disrupting always good? When do we say the converse, that a system or structure has ‘withstood the test of time’? Can you articulate to our readers when disrupting an industry is positive, and when disrupting an industry is ‘not so positive’? Can you share some examples of what you mean?

Where disruption can go wrong is when a company takes too big of a chance without doing its market research and understanding the right customer problems to solve. A product manager’s most valuable tool (other than Productboard 😊) is customer feedback and not just any feedback, but the question behind the question. What is the customer trying to solve, not what feature is the customer asking to be built.

If you disregard the problems, needs, and expectations of customers, even if your product looks snazzy and innovative, is it truly disruptive?

For example, Google Glass fits into this category. It seemed next generation but mostly focused on the technology because Google ‘could’ build it. Even the positioning around the release did not talk about the value customers got from it, and if we are honest with ourselves the technology was more about newness than it was about solving customer problems. Ultimately this ‘disruptive’ new product flopped.

Some of the best disruptions I have seen keep it simple (think Gusto’s slimmed-down HR platform) or play into leveraging something already existing (think Amazon Web Services). It doesn’t have to be flashy to be innovative, but it does have to matter to the core audience you are targeting. If your team cannot communicate the problem, the why, and the solution goes back to talking to prospects and customers. It’s better to spend that extra cycle than contribute to another feature that will not be used.

We are sure you aren’t done. How are you going to shake things up next?

We are just getting started at Productboard! We are going to shake things up by focusing on personas outside of product managers in the coming years. We believe that product is a team sport and not just a vertical category. I want to be at the forefront of solving friction and problems for stakeholders working with PMs on a daily, weekly, or monthly basis. After all, great product teams are 40% more likely to beat the Rule of 40 performance metric.

In your opinion, what are the biggest challenges faced by ‘women disruptors’ that aren’t typically faced by their male counterparts?

I respect that you asked this question, and I hope you respect my answer as well, because well there isn’t really a perfect answer, and it is very nuanced. I’m often asked this type of question — a question that has to do with how women face more obstacles in the workforce. And to me, it always feels like a mental conundrum, one that leaves me with not the best feeling. While I certainly believe in the challenges women face, and I’ve written at length about imposter syndrome, I also realize it takes away space that I could otherwise leverage to share my expert viewpoint. This question, after all, would not be asked to my male counterpart, and this 129-word paragraph would have been dedicated to a different topic.

One way to think about it is that talking about gender equity and inclusion is more important than any product topic, and I do believe that to be true. However, then is the right way to gender equity and inclusion by giving women less time to shine as experts? Is the best way to inspire the new generation of women to highlight the obstacles or the successes? I really don’t know the right answer to those questions yet, but what I do know is that I am inspired every day by women in technology. Whether it is Caroline Clark bringing Arcade from 0 to 1, Marie Gassée consulting Silicon Valley on what it means to be product-led, or Jasmine Shells approaching employee engagement from a different perspective, these women are paving the way.

In product, when we aren’t necessarily sure what we should say yet, we call it a divergent thought, a process that helps solidify with time some convergent thinking. In the years to come, I look forward to having a better answer to this type of question when my thoughts start to converge more. Until then, I welcome different perspectives on the matter, especially from other women who have been asked this type of question.

Can you please give us your favorite “Life Lesson Quote”? Can you share how that was relevant to you in your life?

As the Federal Aviation Administration likes to remind us before every takeoff ‘put your oxygen mask on before helping others.

This took me a really long time in my career to realize. I would try to take on every request, and carry the team if needed, all because I thought that’s how I could best contribute. After getting burned out a few times, I realized my best self wasn’t coming through, I wanted a change. I started focusing on what sustainable success could look like, and the more I learned, the more I started seeing anecdotes about putting yourself first. It seemed counter-intuitive to me, but as I tried the different tactics, I started seeing a difference — a difference in the way my better mood impacted my team, a difference in my collected thoughts during a presentation, a difference in my output towards the things that actually mattered because I had deprioritized what didn’t matter. I was in almost all regards a better employee, boss, teammate, friend, contributor, and leader.

For practical advice, here are a few things to try out. Asking others to prioritize their requests for you, going on a 15-minute walk when you feel really busy, disabling Slack notifications on your phone, getting outdoor sunlight before 9 AM, happiness meditation, setting boundaries, empowering others less busy to take on the work, and above all forgiving yourself for not being perfect.

Let me know how it goes. And if there is anything else I should add to my list to try.

How can our readers follow you online?

I’m on LinkedIn at Sophie Lalonde.

I’m on Twitter at SophieALalonde.

Check out Productboard’s blog.

This was very inspiring. Thank you so much for joining us!


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Erin Donahue Tice: Five Ways To Leverage Instagram To Dramatically Improve Your Business

An Interview With Candice Georgiadis

Showcase YOURSELF not just your PRODUCT. I like to showcase the things I’m doing “outside of work” — what I’m feeding my family for dinner, the tablecloth I just scored on sale and how I’m using it for a beautiful tablescape, or where I’m going on vacation. I also like to pop on frequently and talk on camera on my Instagram stories. People want to see you and know who you are before they invest in your product. This tool can work for so many founders and entrepreneurs launching businesses.

As a part of our series about How To Leverage Instagram To Grow Your Business, I had the pleasure of interviewing Erin Donahue Tice.

Erin Donahue Tice is a self-taught abstract artist based in Austin, Texas creating original paintings for inspired collectors across the country. Erin’s medium of choice is acrylics but she also experiments with mixed mediums. She is drawn to the object nature of abstract art and loves the free-flowing experience of creating something unexpected. If you are interested in learning more about Erin or her art please follow her @erindonahueticeart on Instagram.

Thank you so much for doing this with us! Can you share the most interesting story that happened to you since you started this career?

I can think of so many, but one that sticks out is how I became really good friends with a client I met on Instagram. During the pandemic, my business really took off and I started reaching clients in all corners of the United States. One client lived in Northern California and purchased a few smaller pieces from me after discovering my work on Instagram. Flash forward about six months later, her family somewhat randomly decided to move to Austin in Summer 2020. Now she was decorating her brand new house in Austin and needed BIGGER artwork. She reached out to me and asked to come see my work in person, now that she could. Right away I could tell that I liked her — she had great style, was super sweet and friendly and had kids around the same age as mine. Since this was still 2020, and people weren’t gathering that much, I thought how hard it must be for her to move to a brand new city and not be able to truly socialize. So, I asked her to go on a walk with me. We clicked immediately and continued walking throughout the pandemic. We have since become very close friends and have even traveled together. Now, my art proudly hangs in her gorgeous home in Austin.

Can you share a story about the funniest mistake you made when you were first starting? Can you tell us what lesson you learned from that?

So many mistakes! And none of them were that funny, but boy did I learn from them. Still do. But one error in particular that I had to learn the hard way from was sending pieces framed in glass via UPS. I even had professionals pack the box and ensure that it was completely protected. Well, low and behold the piece arrived completely shattered and did not go over well. I immediately owned my mistake and issued a refund, but I was SO embarrassed. Now, I almost exclusively use private drivers to ship my paintings. I find this process is MUCH safer and causes fewer issues. Shipping large artwork is no joke!

Ok. Let’s now move to the main focus of our discussion. For the benefit of our readers, can you explain why you are an authority about Social Media Marketing?

Prior to launching my professional art career in 2018, I spent over a decade working in PR for firms in Chicago and New York. While my main focus was on corporate communications, executive positioning and media relations, I did do a fair share of social media along the way, too. When I decided to officially launch my art business in 2018, I knew that Instagram would be the obvious choice for a platform. I brushed up on my Instagram skills by a lot of trial and error, research and also eventually hiring a social media coach to help me learn the tricks of the trade. I also follow a lot of Instagram experts and learn so much (FOR FREE!) as the algorithm continues to evolve.

Which social media platform have you found to be most effective to use to increase business revenues? Can you share a story from your experience?

Instagram has been key for my business. It’s visual in nature and allows artists to connect one-on-one with clients. I use the platform to not only showcase my artwork in beautiful settings, but I also use it to showcase MYSELF. What I was wearing, where I was traveling, how I was setting my table for a party, what I was cooking for dinner. It allows me to connect with my community, and has helped develop a highly engaged following of people who not only connect to my art, but connect to the person behind the paintbrush.

Let’s talk about Instagram specifically, now. Can you share five ways to leverage Instagram to dramatically improve your business? Please share a story or example for each.

  1. Showcase YOURSELF not just your PRODUCT. I like to showcase the things I’m doing “outside of work” — what I’m feeding my family for dinner, the tablecloth I just scored on sale and how I’m using it for a beautiful tablescape, or where I’m going on vacation. I also like to pop on frequently and talk on camera on my Instagram stories. People want to see you and know who you are before they invest in your product. This tool can work for so many founders and entrepreneurs launching businesses.
  2. Don’t just sell, sell, sell — offer tips and tricks to your followers. Instead of shoving your products down your followers’ throats, why not find a way to add value? For example, I often give people tips on how to frame their art, or unique ways to hang their artwork. People appreciate when you offer them something helpful or useful, and are more likely to invest in your product.
  3. Engage with your community. When I first started my page, I didn’t realize that there’s a whole underground community on Instagram if you look for it. I started catching on and actively made a point to comment on like-minded businesses’ pages, and actively respond to comments left on my page. This fostered a sense of community and has spilled over into in-person events and collaborations I’ve done with other Instagram “friends,” not to mention it’s helped me sell more pieces!
  4. Don’t be afraid to DM someone. I used direct messages on Instagram a lot in the beginning. I reached out to Interior Designers and Galleries and Influencers to tell them about my work and ask if they’d like to hear more about it. The personal touch of a DM goes a long way — but make sure to compliment the person you’re trying to “pitch.”
  5. Post frequently. In order to make a dent and try to drive sales, you have to show up often. I try to post one my feed at least 1–2 times a day, and on my stories at least 5 times per day. The more effort you put in, the more return you’ll see.

Because of the position that you are in, you are a person of great influence. If you could inspire a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger. 🙂

I would like for people to use creativity to overcome their anxiety or depression. Finding painting helped me get through some tough postpartum moments, and eventually helped me become myself again. Whether it’s painting, making jewelry, gardening, cooking, or another creative outlet — using your hands and mind to create something unique is such a powerful tool to overcome tough periods in life.

Some of the biggest names in Business, VC funding, Sports, and Entertainment read this column. Is there a person in the world, or in the US with whom you would love to have a private breakfast or lunch with, and why? He or she might just see this if we tag them 🙂

I just got done reading jewelry designer Kendra Scott’s memoir “Born to Shine,” and was so inspired. She is a fellow Austinite and mom of three boys, and I feel like we’d have so much to talk about. The way she built her business from essentially nothing to a billion dollar company is incredible. I would love to pick her brain and learn from her as I’m currently working on a couple other business ideas outside of art!

Thank you so much for these great insights. This was very enlightening!


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Female Disruptors: Beatrice Girelli of Indidesign On The Three Things You Need To Shake Up Your…

Female Disruptors: Beatrice Girelli of Indidesign On The Three Things You Need To Shake Up Your Industry

An Interview With Candice Georgiadis

“Situations are fluid” This is what the father of my best friend used to say and it is absolutely true. Sometimes we tend to think of a specific situation as a catastrophe or insurmountable obstacle but this is almost never the case. Every situation evolves and you can promote such development. Learning how to pivot is critical.

As a part of our series about women who are shaking things up in their industry, I had the pleasure of interviewing Beatrice Girelli.

An architect by training, Beatrice studied in Italy and founded Indidesign in Los Angeles two decades ago. The work of Indidesign is focused on the interior architecture and design of luxury and lifestyle hospitality spaces conceived and crafted holistically to create memorable experiences.

Thank you so much for doing this with us! Before we dig in, our readers would like to get to know you a bit more. Can you tell us a bit about your “backstory”? What led you to this particular career path?

Thank you for this opportunity! My mother is an art historian and I was exposed to visually rich experiences from an early age. As a young mother she brought me along to exhibits and historical sites since I was barely a year old. Flipping through art books and visiting museums from a young age has definitely shaped my visual skills and a passion for art and design. I have always been fascinated by the impact a physical space has on the user experience (even if at the time I did not know how to describe this concept) and knew early on that I was attracted by a career in architecture.

Can you tell our readers what it is about the work you’re doing that’s disruptive?

When I took my first steps in this profession, I noticed a tendency to separate disciplines within a firm and many firms still operate this way these days. There was a group of people that plan spaces, another person that would determine the aesthetic direction for the space, others that would produce detailed drawings, another group would select materials and furnishings, and someone completely different would oversee the execution. It was probably an efficient system but it was disconnected and far from my idea of how a design practice should operate; it felt extremely corporate and, in most cases, it precluded design opportunities.

I was not used to thinking about architecture as a business (considering most architects in Italy are eternally unfulfilled and in therapy) and I thought it was crazy. Indidesign is first and foremost a design studio, not an enterprise. We look at every project as an opportunity and we follow a holistic process where disciplines are layered and the same individuals are responsible for the project from concept to implementation and everything in between. It is a system that allows us to be fully vested in the outcome, keeping us engaged at all times. We all challenge ourselves to grow and evolve with every project. Clients truly appreciate the continuity in the process because we are able to provide seamless communication and great attention to detail considering that everyone involved is fully aware of the history of the project. It has also proven to be a very efficient system because we have built incredibly large projects with very small teams compared to some of our competitors. I always tell my team that we do things the hard way perhaps, but it is the only way we can walk proudly into a finished space.

Can you share a story about the funniest mistake you made when you were first starting? Can you tell us what lesson you learned from that?

That was probably when we issued a presentation for a fairly uptight new client with a section titled “PUBIC areas” …..instead of “Public”! Lesson learned: Always review the text of each presentation personally.

We all need a little help along the journey. Who have been some of your mentors? Can you share a story about how they made an impact?

I was lucky to meet people that believed in me and helped me evolve by offering me opportunities that on paper may have not been commensurate with my experience at the time, but it worked! My most important mentor was an engineer friend of my parents who worked in project management for large scale international projects and showed me that there is always another world beyond the limits of your current one. If you keep an open mind–physical, mental and geographical boundaries can all be conquered and you can learn to spot opportunities anywhere. He is the reason why 25 years later I have a successful design studio in Los Angeles — 10,183 kilometers from my hometown, Rome!

When do we say the converse, that a system or structure has ‘withstood the test of time’? Can you articulate to our readers when disrupting an industry is positive, and when disrupting an industry is ‘not so positive’? Can you share some examples of what you mean?

I think that disrupting an industry is most certainly positive when you can clearly perceive the need for positive change and are able to maintain a critical point of view by forming a vision for the future. In my opinion, accepting the status-quo just because conforming is easier is the death of the creative process and evolution, but in order to promote progress it is necessary to have intuition and the frame of a plan. Disruption for the sake of it or just because we do not like something or someone does not equate to progress.

Can you share 3 of the best words of advice you’ve gotten along your journey? Please give a story or example for each.

“Situations are fluid” This is what the father of my best friend used to say and it is absolutely true. Sometimes we tend to think of a specific situation as a catastrophe or insurmountable obstacle but this is almost never the case. Every situation evolves and you can promote such development. Learning how to pivot is critical.

We are sure you aren’t done. How are you going to shake things up next?

After two decades executing projects for others, I would love to be able to lead my own development and create a brand (beyond the Indidesign brand). Our most successful projects have always been those where we were given the freedom to test our intuitions without too many constraints. I was able to foresee many trends ahead of time and I think that we could be very successful in creating an experience with a unique point of view even in an industry that may appear saturated.

In your opinion, what are the biggest challenges faced by ‘women disruptors’ that aren’t typically faced by their male counterparts?

Most women in our industry (architecture, design and development) are confined to a specific role and while there are many women in the lower ranks, women still represent a minority among industry leaders. Men often see themselves as other men and tend to support the ideas of those that “look, speak and behave” more like them. I think the biggest challenge is to build confidence in an environment that poses women at a disadvantage and then find the right audience. My biggest frustration is when I am described as “the interior designer” which I find to be a very reductive way to describe what I actually do or who I am and what I bring to the table.

Do you have a book/podcast/talk that’s had a deep impact on your thinking? Can you share a story with us?

I read a lot and there are too many books to list, but I think that the most interesting podcast out there right now is “The Grand Tourist” by Dan Rubinstein. It is a very polished, smart, engaging and beautifully edited collection of interviews with visionaries and tastemakers in architecture, design, art, fashion, hospitality, tourism. Every episode is a delight.

You are a person of great influence. If you could inspire a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger. 🙂

This is not a new concept, but I truly would like to see a more meaningful global cultural shift in how people relate to animals. Animals are beautiful, loving, sensitive creatures, not disposable commodities and I am constantly in search of ideas that could accelerate a positive change at least in the new generations. It is a topic of great sadness for me but I have not lost hope yet.

Can you please give us your favorite “Life Lesson Quote”? Can you share how that was relevant to you in your life?

Being from Rome we have literally a “quote” or saying for every circumstance and there are many that I use, some don’t even make sense when translated! One of my favorite quotes though is by Jane Goodall and it reads more or less as following:

“It actually doesn’t take much to be considered a difficult woman. That’s why there are so many of us.”

It always makes me smile and it is so true. I don’t know any woman that does not relate to this quote!

How can our readers follow you online?

BG: some of our work can be viewed on our website https://www.indidesign.com/

I have an IG account @indithoughts but I am not very committed to it! It may become more interesting though, maybe it will be one of my 2023 resolutions!

This was very inspiring. Thank you so much for joining us!


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Female Disruptors: Carrie Hadley of INDIEHOUSE FRAGRANCES On The Three Things You Need To Shake Up…

Female Disruptors: Carrie Hadley of INDIEHOUSE FRAGRANCES On The Three Things You Need To Shake Up Your Industry

An Interview With Candice Georgiadis

“Done is better than perfect” — I aim for perfection in everything that I attempt, but have come to understand that most of the time you’ve got to get it out there and then make it better as you go. I continue to be just so amazed and grateful to my amazing customers who, when I point out something that’s not working as smoothly as I would like, will usually say “hey, I think it’s great!” God bless them for their patience and kindness!

As a part of our series about women who are shaking things up in their industry, I had the pleasure of interviewing Carrie Hadley.

Carrie Hadley is the Owner and Creative Director of INDIEHOUSE FRAGRANCES. She owns two locations, one in Alpharetta, Georgia and one in midtown, Atlanta.

As a Perfumer, Ms. Hadley is an artist who is trained in depth, on the concepts of fragrance aesthetics. She has a keen knowledge of a large variety of fragrance ingredients and their smells, She is able to distinguish each one alone or in combination with others.

Having studied the art in Europe, Ms. Hadley has now brought the concept to the United States. Her goal is to show her clients how to experience the fragrance niche at luxury brick and mortar locations. She plans to expand her growing business to more states across America.

Why did I open this business? What about this work is disruptive?

I’m a super curious person, so while studying perfume building with the thought of launching my own brand, I wanted to explore what other artists were doing. Trying to find the smaller brands and less mainstream scents was challenging here in Atlanta, and the only thing available to me in this area was the large department store or beauty chain experience.

Which for me, was completely overwhelming.

Shelves upon shelves of beautiful bottles that I didn’t want to drop and break with names that did not give me any idea what was inside. The Stockists were always very nice and would ask what I was looking for, but honestly most of the time I didn’t know because the options were not clear and I didn’t know the language.

Then I would spray one to test it and get it all over my hand or leather handbag — so now I’m wearing it whether I like it or not.

If I did find one that I enjoyed, there was never any information on what sizes the product was available in and what the cost was. I personally find it a bit embarrassing to have to ask the price of something, it just makes me uncomfortable.

It suddenly dawned on me that what the world needed was not necessarily another fragrance brand (there were over 2500 new brands launched in 2017), but that maybe my community here in Atlanta would embrace a new way to shop for unique fragrances — brands that would set them apart from the masses of mall shoppers.

When I reached out to some of the brand reps in NYC and LA, they told me that “Atlanta was not a sophisticated enough market to understand niche & high-end luxury fragrances, they only buy designer labels for show.” That didn’t sound like the Atlanta that I have lived in for the past 20 years. But just in case they knew something that I didn’t, I developed a workshop class to teach people about fragrances and to let them try their hand at creating their own.

INDIEHOUSE was born to solve all of the issues that to me, made the shopping experience less than ideal. I did about 18 months of research and found the most interesting Niche and Artisan brands to bring here to our Atlanta area store. All but 4 brands are exclusive to us in this market. To date we have made unique and beautiful fragrances with over 4,000 guests from all over the Southeast Region. And fun fact — I was right. The majority of our guests from Atlanta are indeed very sophisticated when it comes to Niche & Luxury fine fragrances.

What are you doing that’s disruptive?

Two things;

  1. We make shopping for a new scent an enjoyable discovery experience. We believe that you already know what you like and what you don’t like, so we structure the experience, both in-store and online, to help you discover new fragrances to go with your different moods and outfits.
  2. We are giving our guests the knowledge to make the best buying decisions for themselves. Who else is offering to educate their guests on how to shop for the product, explain longevity and set the expectations on how the product will perform? We are not afraid to give people the knowledge to understand how the product will perform and they reward us by returning to shop again.

Can you share a story about the funniest mistake you made when you were first starting? Can you tell us what lesson you learned from that?

When you are just starting out, every mistake is tied to money that you don’t have much of, so “funny” may not be the word I would use, but mistakes — yes plenty of them!

Oh, my goodness, the first two months of classes that I taught I did this amazing PowerPoint presentation which went through the history of perfume, literally starting in the Greek period, and continuing through to modern day. It took me one hour and a half to get through the material and I was having so much fun until one day a woman raised her hand and said, “I’m bored and came to make perfume, are you going to be done soon?”

I was mortified! It was a 2-hour class and it lasted for almost 4 hours because I was so excited to chat with people and share what I knew that I went on, and on, and on….!

It took her pointing out that not everyone wanted that level of detail for me to realize that not everyone wants to go down the rabbit hole. I revised the presentation to really focus on information that was interesting to most people and now we talk about things that to me seem really basic, but there are at least 4 people in the group every time who will exclaim out loud “OMG I HAD NO IDEA!!” and then I am reminded that little nuggets of helpful information make a fun experience, a 2-hour lecture on the history of anything is actually quite boring!

We all need a little help along the journey. Who have been some of your mentors? Can you share a story about how they made an impact?

My first boss, Jamie Haberkorn at Leo Burnett Advertising in Chicago. I was fresh out of college and thought I was a BIG deal. One of my tasks was to take notes in the client meetings and write up a summary with next steps. Easy stuff for a communications major with a minor in writing. She handed that first one back to me coated in so much red ink you could barely see the color of the paper. She said, “you’re doing much better than the last few Account Execs — great work!” and she was completely serious. I learned quickly that high standards and attention to every single detail are critical if you are going to be successful in anything. She was passionate about making sure every detail was taken care of and that every issue was thought through from every angle. Meetings with her were brainstorming sessions with a detailed project list at the end and were ALWAYS productive. I tend to now lead like she did, getting everyone’s thoughts and sorting out who has the best skills to accomplish our goals, then letting them go off and get it done.

Can you share 3 of the best words of advice you’ve gotten along your journey? Please give a story or example for each.

“Done is better than perfect” — I aim for perfection in everything that I attempt, but have come to understand that most of the time you’ve got to get it out there and then make it better as you go. I continue to be just so amazed and grateful to my amazing customers who, when I point out something that’s not working as smoothly as I would like, will usually say “hey, I think it’s great!” God bless them for their patience and kindness!

“The Power of Broke” — Stealing this one from someone I admire greatly, Damon John. He advises against going out and getting investments and kick starters saying that you will hustle harder and learn faster when you are working with small amounts of your own personal cash. He is exactly right. You don’t throw around money on expensive influencers or video campaigns when you only have enough money to pay your current bills. We leverage the positive feedback from our actual guests to bring in more guests, using social media as it was intended, not as another advertising vehicle to spend money on.

“When you are going through hell, KEEP GOING!” — Winston Churchill. This just makes so much sense to me. If you are in the middle of a situation that is not going well, the only way to make it worse is to give up! There have been plenty of days leading up to getting this second store open where I have wanted to just say “forget it, move the opening to January, this was an unreasonable goal anyway.” We got the keys to the unfinished space Oct 1 and opened the store on Nov 26. Yes. I am very tired. But SO grateful to all of the amazing people along the way who said “Yeah, we can do that in time.”

We are sure you aren’t done. How are you going to shake things up next?

In 2023 we are introducing a Personal Concierge appointment-based service and a custom bespoke scent creation experience in our Westside Provisions location.

In our Alpharetta Studio we will finally launch our Scent Blending 201 level class for guests who have taken the current workshop and want to try their hand at blending from over 200 notes in a 4-hour class.

At least once a week one of our guests will ask if we can put one of these INDIEHOUSE concept studio’s in the town where they live (Nashville, Birmingham, Boca Raton, Charleston) and I think there is a good chance of that happening some day in the near future!

In your opinion, what are the biggest challenges faced by ‘women disruptors’ that aren’t typically faced by their male counterparts?

Ugh — everything?!! I still find, after one successful store up and running that proves the concept is both solid and profitable, that people don’t take me seriously. From lawyers telling me that I won’t get what I’m asking for in the lease so I might as well not ask (WHAT??) to potential landlords not wanting to come and actually see the successful store but waiting until September to decide if they will lease to me when I told them in January of that year I wanted the space. That’s 9 months of time lost and then I have 6 weeks to do what I should have had 9 months to do. It’s beyond frustrating and I really do feel a lot of the time like I am pushing and pushing and pushing on people to get the basic things done. It’s exhausting and it takes energy and time away from how quickly I can build the concept to expand. Oh, and I have three kids a husband and 2 dogs, so this is not the only obligation in my life.

I will say as a counter argument, that it brings us together in strong ways that until you have experienced it few can understand. I have a fellow female entrepreneur girlfriend who hustles just as hard as I do and we are constantly sharing ideas and what worked and what bombed and keeping each other positive. I attend a women-only business owners networking meeting once a week to connect and share ideas & frustrations with other women. We don’t BS with each other — we are all willing to lay it out there and allow others to give perspective and support. It’s something I wouldn’t trade, and that I don’t see when I am at other business networking events.

This was very inspiring. Thank you so much for joining us!


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Women Of The C-Suite: LaDawn Townsend of the VOS Group On The Five Things You Need To Succeed As A…

Women Of The C-Suite: LaDawn Townsend of the VOS Group On The Five Things You Need To Succeed As A Senior Executive

An Interview With Candice Georgiadis

Take your time but don’t take your foot off the gas.. This means remembering that your goals are a part of the journey and it is okay to take action toward them but everything in business, and life, shouldn’t be a red alert.

As a part of our interview series called “Women Of The C-Suite”, we had the pleasure of interviewing LaDawn Townsend.

LaDawn Townsend is the CEO of the VOS Group, a leadership development and strategic advisory firm leaders in positions of power and authority, and creator of the Recalibrate Leadership methodology. She has over twenty years of hands-on experience delivering leadership training and business strategy to global brands in the public and private sector including SBA, NASA and Large Enterprises.

Thank you so much for joining us in this interview series! Before we dig in, our readers would like to get to know you a bit more. Can you tell us a bit about your “backstory”? What led you to this particular career path?

Sure! I would love to. I’m a Los Angeles native that came from a family of entrepreneurs. It was the best training ground for my transition into being a CEO after my corporate career ended in 2014 when my department was downsized. I always loved fixing broken processes and that quickly became my career in the Finance and Tech industries.

Can you share the most interesting story that happened to you since you began leading your company?

My company is often brought in to recalibrate the leaders of an organization, this is simple but never easy because it requires most leaders to take a look in the mirror about what they have tolerated in the business. When they have shifted their thought process to instill and hold their team accountable that’s the magic moment. The most interesting story for me is after working with a global brand the entire department had a turn around in performance and the best part is that new talent was not needed, they retained the staff. It also led to over $1M in annual payroll savings for the company. When these moments happen it is an added benefit for my team and I and a constant reminder as to why I started my firm- to help leaders never have to use laying people off to make the budget.

It has been said that our mistakes can be our greatest teachers. Can you share a story about the funniest mistake you made when you were first starting? Can you tell us what lesson you learned from that?

One of the funniest moments was when I traveled overseas to work with a client, keeping up with time zones is always tricky. In this situation, I was leaving the country after 8 days of fast and furious meetings, and on the day of my departure, I decided to do a late check out at the hotel, take a stroll around the city and then head to the airport later on for my evening flight. During that stroll, I remember my boarding pass flashing to my memory with the departure time, the time seemed odd to me. I then realized the plane left that morning at 6 AM and not 6 PM.

I was horrified a bit and was relieved later after my client was so gracious as to book a new flight for me to leave the next day. The biggest lesson in that from my early days was to hire an excellent EA and empower them to manage your calendar and you so that you’re not stranded in another country. Today, I can laugh about it but at the time it was a huge eye-opener.

None of us are able to achieve success without some help along the way. Is there a particular person who you are grateful towards who helped get you to where you are? Can you share a story about that?

One of my previous managers gave me the best piece of advice in my corporate career that helped me as a business owner and it was to anticipate the needs of my manager. He wasn’t telling me to be perfect in my performance, he was showing me how to think strategically at an entirely new level. Over the years I’ve mastered this ability to look for the watch items on the road ahead and I teach this inside of our Recalibrate Leadership program in our “Managing Your Manager” pillar.

Leadership often entails making difficult decisions or hard choices between two apparently good paths. Can you share a story with us about a hard decision or choice you had to make as a leader?

In 2020 during the height of the COVID pandemic we were also a year into a rebrand of my firm, what started as a revision to the company logo and color palette turned into a pivot to our business model. This pivot was largely due to the positive feedback we received from both clients and prospects along with trusted colleagues on what they felt I did well as an expert and what the firm also did well, we specifically wanted to hear feedback on both. This is where it was cemented for us that our clients wanted more leadership training with the business strategy being secondary. As a leader, it is never an easy decision to make on the next path to take your company when there are team members involved. However, at that point, I had taken my firm on the traditional consulting route of adding more team members and was even on the verge of signing a commercial lease for a larger office space. That’s when everything paused, and I had to ask myself the question “Is scaling this way the right decision for the firm? Can we serve our clients differently with even more value? What type of life did I want as the CEO?”

That last question I often see leaders pause or never ask. But, it had become important for me because my inner compass was telling me something needed to change. After seeking advice from mentors and trusting myself we ditched the commercial space and reduced the team by 70% over the next year. It was a hard decision but the right decision to make and we tried to do it in a way that showed respect to the team. The transition ended as well as it could.

Ok, thank you for that. Let’s now jump to the primary focus of our interview. Most of our readers — in fact, most people — think they have a pretty good idea of what a CEO or executive does. But in just a few words can you explain what an executive does that is different from the responsibilities of the other leaders?

This is a great question and one I’m glad to dive into because it is a core element of our leadership belief. Executives are on the hook to make the call that no one else can make, they have to make the toughest decisions by 10 AM while others are still figuring out their day. The buck starts and stops with executives and the more responsibility they have, which brings more pressure, is what I refer to as a privilege.

What are the “myths” that you would like to dispel about being a CEO or executive? Can you explain what you mean?

The first myth is that decisions have to be made by a committee, nothing could be further from the truth. CEOs have to ‘make the call’ as I say with either good results or bad outcomes as a result. All eyes are waiting to see what they will do. It is a value add to get feedback from your Board and even the C-Suite team but I believe companies are not a democracy or a bureaucracy it is about having the roles well defined and within their areas of strength.

In your opinion, what are the biggest challenges faced by women executives that aren’t typically faced by their male counterparts?

From my personal experience it is encountering a dismissal attitude, I’ve encountered this as an executive in Corporate and also as a CEO. And, it’s a challenge I look forward to. If it was during the days of showing an executive key data that revealed the gaps within their department or leading a workshop for a client with a heckler in the front row it is an opportunity not to ignore or silence the person but to redirect the narrative away from them being the spotlight and back to what we came here to do.

In many cases, with the work I do, there is a significant gap or problem that is detrimental to the company so when we keep the bigger issue in mind the limited mindset of someone displaying less than ideal behavior is not the priority. When I keep my tone and posture focused on that the individual turns around or someone steps in with a verbal mirror to help them see how they’re behavior doesn’t align with the title of leader.

What is the most striking difference between your actual job and how you thought the job would be?

Oh my goodness! How much time do we have? But, seriously the biggest shocker was the different things that would ask for my attention. As an executive, I would pride myself on clearing my end box by the end of the day and today I’m happy to get through it by the end of the week.

To help with this we have processes and procedures set up on how to communicate with me and what I should be pulled into so that all urgent items are being addressed on time and in scope. The biggest take-away for me in this season of being a leader is to give myself grace to accept what I can do and to move on to a plan of how to deal with the rest. I often talk with my clients about this, it is easier said than done but once it is put into practice it is an ideal productivity tool for leaders.

Is everyone cut out to be an executive? In your opinion, which specific traits increase the likelihood that a person will be a successful executive and what type of person should avoid aspiring to be an executive? Can you explain what you mean?

No, everyone is not cut out to be an executive. The ideal leader would be the one that shows their work ethic and character behind the scene when there is no one watching. They are the ones that are viewed as leading with influence versus with a title. What happens most of the time in organizations is that if someone does a task well or has a certain tenure with the company they are promoted, this is not accurate and can lead to a fallout within the employees and loss of productivity for the department.

Leaders are just that, ones who lead, you should be looking for how they show up when a promotion isn’t on the table.

What are your “5 Things I Wish Someone Told Me Before I Started” and why? (Please share a story or example for each.)

The first would be to schedule vacation days in advance and to chart your business activities around that when possible. The reason for this is that if the leader at the helm is burned out and overworked everything goes downhill from there. The second would be to hire right the first time by being very clear on the work ethic you want for employees in their roles. The third would be to be okay to think differently about how the business should flow and don’t allow yourself to get stuck in patterns. Next up, is to keep your inner circle with only those who you truly know their character, and feel free to refresh that group as often as needed. If you have a hesitation or pause about someone, trust yourself and recalibrate.

The last is to take your time but don’t take your foot off the gas.. This means remembering that your goals are a part of the journey and it is okay to take action toward them but everything in business, and life, shouldn’t be a red alert.

You are a person of great influence. If you could inspire a movement that would bring the most amount of good for the greatest number of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger.

That leadership is an inside job! This is a core teaching in our Recalibrate Leadership system, if leaders want to see the change within their community it will start within the four walls of the office you work in. To make a change we have to first be the change.

We are very blessed that some very prominent names in Business, VC funding, Sports, and Entertainment read this column. Is there a person in the world, or in the US with whom you would love to have a private breakfast or lunch with, and why? He or she might just see this if we tag them

I admire Judy Smith, the world-renowned crisis management expert and past advisor to President Bush. Her ability to navigate and advise those in critical situations with the grace and strength that she does is something I deeply admire. If given the opportunity to have lunch with someone I consider a mentor, whom I may never meet, would be such a great honor.

Thank you for these fantastic insights. We greatly appreciate the time you spent on this.


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US Army Major Javon Starnes: “They Told Me It Was Impossible And I Did It Anyway”

An Interview With Candice Georgiadis

Work hard: In sports, we often make practice hard so the games are easy. You want to train so your technique or passion becomes second nature. Leaders value hard work. Sometimes hard work means studying so you can work smarter.

As a part of our series about “dreamers who ignored the naysayers and did what others said was impossible”, I had the pleasure of interviewing Major Javon Starnes.

Major Javon Starnes didn’t have an easy childhood, witnessing domestic violence in his home, being raised in poverty, and bouncing between shelters. Now as a leader in the U.S. Army, Maj. Starnes chooses to use his past as a part of his story, reminding himself of how far he has come as a person, and proving that, despite your upbringing and with determination, you can make something of yourself.

Maj. Starnes’ upbringing also taught him the importance of community. He now uses this mindset in his role as a Public Affairs Officer in the U.S. Army, looking to help fellow Soldiers as well as support decision-making that will continue to have a positive impact on communities all around the world.

He is also featured among fellow Soldiers in the Army’s latest “Decide to Lead” campaign that spotlights Officers, a specialized path of service for aspiring leaders.

Thank you so much for joining us! Our readers would love to ‘get to know you’ a bit better. Can you tell us your ‘backstory’?

I grew up rough. I was born in Atlantic City, New Jersey, but moved to Wilmington, Delaware at an early age. My brother and I were raised by our single parent mother who was literally running for her life. We were homeless and had to live in domestic violence shelters — bouncing from one to the next. The shelters are sometimes hidden in plain sight. Whenever I ride by them, I’m reminded of how far I’ve come, and I thank God. However hurtful, it is part of my story. I have memories of my mother’s abuser jumping through our second-floor window and shattering glass to get back in the house. I also remember my family being kicked out of a shelter with nowhere to sleep and left in a motel parking lot.

It’s difficult for me to watch certain movies like “The Pursuit of Happyness.” The scene when Will Smith is holding his son while sleeping in a subway bathroom hits very close to home.

My mother was also on dialysis three days a week. I was forced to grow up faster than my friends and family. I rode public transportation to pay bills because my mother was too sick to physically pay them herself. As a teenager, I played the role of nurse for my mother; I memorized all her medications and doses and knew her doctors. One night an access tube on her arm burst while bathing and she would have bled out had I not grabbed a belt to help her make a tourniquet.

I remember when I was 15 years old, I was notified that I lost my biological father. Then two days after my 18th birthday, my mother passed away. This was about a month into starting college at East Carolina University.

I had a decision to make. I chose to persevere through it all and make something of myself as an Army Officer. Now, I have a family of my own. I’m married with three beautiful children.

Are you working on any new or exciting projects now? How do you think that will help people?

Currently, I’m working with Dr. Donnalyn Pompper, a public relations professor at the University of Oregon, to share my perspective on research methods as an Army Public Affairs Army Officer. In the upcoming textbook, “Discovering Answers, Chapter 5: Exploring the Journey: Basics for Research Projects” will explain how Public Affairs Officers conduct research to amplify storytelling, analyze the information environment, and address safety concerns.

I was also selected to be part of “Decide to Lead,” which is the Army’s new marketing campaign that focuses specifically on Officership, a specialized path of service for aspiring leaders. My life story has been about grit and determination. I mean, look at me; I’m an African American male, an orphan, was homeless at one point, raised in poverty, and witnessed domestic violence in my home. Now, I’m one of the faces many will see on commercials, websites, and posters representing diversity as a successful Army officer. I’ve overcome a lot and now can help others. I wouldn’t be in the position I am now had I not decided to lead.

How do you think that will help people?

Educating students on the similarities between corporate America and the Army allows them to dream of opportunities they may not have previously considered. When talented individuals match their education with a desire to serve others, it can lead to a promising career as an Army officer. The Army Officership career path empowers them to make decisions that affect communities around the world.

In your opinion, what do you think makes your company or organization stand out from the crowd?

I’m also working with my new unit, the 19th Expeditionary Sustainment Command (ESC), located in Daegu, South Korea to amplify Soldier stories. “Every Soldier Counts” is our motto. This motto accounts for every Soldier, family member, civilian, Korean national, contractor, and Korean Augmentee to the United States Army (KATUSA). My job allows me to amplify their vibrant and diverse stories for greater audiences through storytelling, videos, podcasts, or written articles on the Army’s official website.

Brigadier General Frederick Crist, 19th ESC Commanding General, has complete trust in my team’s ability to amplify the unit’s voice, engage with the local community, and provide creative direction for strategic communication objectives. Having a boss who trusts his team is key to success.

Ok, thank you for that. I’d like to jump to the main focus of this interview. Has there ever been a time that someone told you something was impossible, but you did it anyway? Can you share the story with us? What was your idea? What was the reaction of the naysayers? And how did you overcome that?

In high school, I did not know if I had what it took to further my education in college. My grades were good and I was athletic, but I didn’t know if I was “good enough”. During my senior year of high school at John T. Hoggard, I started receiving letters from schools that were interested in me. These were private schools that I had never heard of. Also at this time, my mother and I visited a local community college to get information about attending. During the visit, an academic advisor heard my mother and me talking about private school interests. The advisor took it upon herself to inform my mother and me of the difficulties of being accepted into a private school and her views on whether I would get an offer. She was very negative, to the point that my mother and I ended the visit short. The advisor’s doubt lit a fuse in me.

I left and told myself that I was not going to settle for a community college. I was going to face my fears and apply to larger universities and strive to better myself. From that moment forward, I would check the mailbox and have at least two different universities each week trying to recruit me to attend their school.

I ended my senior year of high school with multiple acceptance letters from major universities, scholarship offers, and at least two acceptance letters from private schools.

In the end, how were all the naysayers proven wrong?

I did not let someone else’s doubts about me negatively affect my life’s choices or define me.

None of us are able to achieve success without some help along the way. Is there a particular person who you are grateful towards who helped get you to where you are? Can you share a story about that?

I’m a man of faith so I owe everything to my heavenly father. My wife, Nelle, has also been my support structure every step of the way. At my lowest of lows, this beautiful and caring woman has been there to pick me up, both emotionally and spiritually. I’ve seen it all from death threats to lies to racism. Her support has held me together.

I’ve also had a few Army mentors who have opened my eyes to see what true leaders are like. Retired Colonel Renee Mann is a genuine person that has shown true humility. Colonel Jin Pak is someone that I know will help me with anything I may go through.

It must not have been easy to ignore all the naysayers. Did you have any experiences growing up that have contributed to building your resiliency? Can you share the story with us?

Grit and determination taught me resiliency at a young age. Having to duck from bullets while playing outside with friends was a harsh reality for my family. Sometimes we had to sit on the floor — lower than the windows while watching television to avoid possible stray bullets. I was gifted in sports and invited to the lacrosse All-Star game but could not go because we did not own a car. We walked everywhere. At times, I had to ensure we had at least $10 to ride back home in a taxi after grocery shopping with my mother. This sometimes meant putting a few things back while at the register. A child should not have to go through these things. These experiences taught me how to survive on little to nothing. I learned how to work hard, put forth the effort, create my own opportunities, and most importantly, have faith and believe in myself.

I was not going to be a product of my environment. I was going to change my environment by uplifting those around me. I was not only going to be a survivor, but also a success story.

I’ve also been given the opportunity to develop my resiliency during my Army experience. I trust myself, and most importantly, others trust me to lead in any environment.

Based on your experience, can you share 5 strategies that people can use to harness the sense of tenacity and do what naysayers think is impossible? (Please share a story or an example for each)

Work hard: In sports, we often make practice hard so the games are easy. You want to train so your technique or passion becomes second nature. Leaders value hard work. Sometimes hard work means studying so you can work smarter.

Create your own opportunities: Just because the path isn’t there doesn’t mean you can’t create it. A path means someone else has been down that road before. Why not be the first?

Have faith: Know your true calling, know who to call on for help, and rely on your faith in Christ.

Believe in yourself: Visualize it when no one else can. See yourself accomplishing the goals you set for yourself.

Create a support system: Get with like-minded people, support each other, then dream BIG.

What is your favorite quote or personal philosophy that relates to the concept of resilience?

My favorite comes from Philippians, Chapter 4 verse 13. “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” I have constantly stood on this bible scripture my entire life.

You are a person of great influence. If you could inspire a movement that would bring the most amount of good for the greatest number of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger.

I would love for people to have financial freedom. They could achieve this through various means, including real estate. My wife and I are some of the first in our family to purchase and own a home with the help of an Army VA loan. I want our kids to have something of their own when they become adults. Once we no longer need to focus on accumulating money for the things we need, we can focus on our passions and doing those things which make us happy.

A passion of mine is photography. My photography business brings me peace. I’m able to create timeless, creative, and fun art for families.

Can our readers follow you on social media?

Readers can visit GoArmy.com to learn more about life in the U.S. Army and you can find me on Instagram @_Vonphotography.

Thank you for these great stories. We wish you only continued success!


US Army Major Javon Starnes: “They Told Me It Was Impossible And I Did It Anyway” was originally published in Authority Magazine on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.

Female Disruptors: Peggy Brug of MRNG On The Three Things You Need To Shake Up Your Industry

An Interview With Candice Georgiadis

Persevere, DON’T QUIT: Staying in business is not easy, there will be times when you want to quit and it is during those times that you have to persevere and stay focused on your goal.

As a part of our series about women who are shaking things up in their industry, I had the pleasure of interviewing Peggy Brug.

Peggy Brug is the co-founder and Chief Executive Officer of MRNG, a luxury CBD-infused cosmetic wellness collection consciously-created with your body and spirit in mind. MRNG products are made with premium CBD from US grown hemp blended with nutrient-rich, organic, vegan and clean ingredients. The products are genderless, multi-use and make every morning worth waking up for!

Thank you so much for doing this with us! Before we dig in, our readers would like to get to know you a bit more. Can you tell us a bit about your “backstory”? What led you to this particular career path?

At 91 years wise in 2018, “Ma” Helene Hermine Brug (co-founder Peggy Brug’s mother) managed an active “snowbird” lifestyle despite having Parkinson’s disease and congestive heart failure. In the summer of 2018, an unfortunate fall caused two pelvic fractures and havoc to Ma’s life. Excruciating pain due to the fractures prevented physical therapy and significantly limited Ma’s mobility. Doctors prescribed narcotics for that severity of pain, but Ma refused to take them. A family friend recommended and provided a cannabis topical. The cannabis salve worked wonders, and in a short period of time, Ma was able to restart physical therapy, her outings, and resumed her travels between New Jersey and Florida, until her passing due to natural causes in March 2021. Ma’s cannabis experience ignited her daughter Peggy’s curiosity and learning. Peggy and some friends started a cannabis journey that explored the inequities and the opportunities in the emerging industry. In 2019, the ladies established Ecquinabis, a diversity, equity and inclusion (DEI) consulting firm, and in 2021 MRNG, a hemp CBD cosmetic wellness line.

Think of the African proverb: “It takes a village to raise a child” then apply the principle to an entrepreneurial venture. The result is: “It takes a village to build a business.” The MRNG team is a village: not one individual but “The Collective”: we are multi-generational, culturally diverse, possess varied skills, work experiences and educational levels. Each member is gifted and talented with a unifying desire to be a positive force in the global cannabis industry.

Can you tell our readers what it is about the work you’re doing that’s disruptive?

MRNG is a luxury, THC-free CBD, genderless, cosmetic wellness collection. MRNG tailored, independently tested, premium CBD from US grown hemp and other natural botanicals into custom formulas beneficial for all skin tones and hair textures. MRNG curated nutrient-rich: organic, vegan and clean ingredients, multi-use and simple unisex applications with a purposeful purchase.

MRNG is part of a disruptive industry — the cannabis industry. The Agriculture Improvement Act of 2018 signed by President Trump ultimately legalized hemp (i.e., the cannabis plant with .3% or less of THC [tetrahydrocannabinol: commonly known as the psychoactive component of cannabis]) pursuant to a controlled regulatory scheme. So, consumers can purchase MRNG products from all 50 states.

What is most interesting in the United States and globally, prohibitions against cannabis are being repealed for both medical and recreational purposes. The legalization of cannabis is disruptive to the criminal justice system. In addition, the cannabis plant is being re-discovered: hemp-based CBD products are disruptive to the wellness, cosmetic and nutraceutical industries, recreational cannabis is disruptive to the alcohol and tobacco industries, medical cannabis is disruptive to the pharmaceutical industry, and hemp products are disruptive to textiles, paper production and much more.

As Black and Brown women in this globally emerging industry that is federally prohibited, highly regulated and financially burdensome, our mere presence is disruptive. It is generally acknowledged that Black and Brown individuals were disproportionately incarcerated for cannabis use, despite similar usage rates by the majority, and that communities of color were devastated by the failed War on Drugs. Black and Brown individuals/communities are nominally benefiting from the vast entrepreneurial and employment opportunities offered by the nascent cannabis industry. Nevertheless, MRNG and other Black and Brown owned brands work daily diligently to build sustainable economic opportunities for individuals/communities, working with allies and being vocal advocates, entrepreneurs, regulators and consumers.

Can you share a story about the funniest mistake you made when you were first starting? Can you tell us what lesson you learned from that?

A wise member of the Collective was quite reluctant and scared to share with her religious Mother that she was involved with the cannabis industry despite being “grown.” Her fear was that she’d be admonished and reminded that she “wasn’t raised that way.” She didn’t tell her mother about the new venture until it was launch time. To our member’s surprise, Mom approved and is a staunch supporter of the MRNG line and a highly satisfied consumer of the MRNG Body Crème. The lesson learned — Don’t make assumptions: about your market, customers, suppliers, employees, or business partners. Share your story: loudly and proudly — you never know whose interest you will peak, what insight they may share and ultimately who will become a happy customer. If you are participating in an emerging industry, you never know who will be an “early-adapter” of your product/service and cheer leader for your business.

We all need a little help along the journey. Who have been some of your mentors? Can you share a story about how they made an impact?

Absolutely, this statement is so true whether you need a little help or if it is something you think is monumental. Pamela Brug who is the sister of Peggy Brug, and John Bailey both have been instrumental mentors. We needed access to specific information for a client. Our resources proved limiting and unfruitful. We sought Dr. Brug’s assistance due to her expansive network and ability to build diverse relationships. Dr. Brug not only provided introductions to an influential contact but also shared the 7 points of contact theory. Her contact provided timely and necessary information for our client. We learned that the way we were using our network was limiting and that we need to be more proactive and continuously add to that network. Mr. Bailey is a national expert in the cannabis industry, focused on equity for Black individuals/communities. During the pandemic, he conveyed dynamic virtual conferences focused on the Black cannabis equity movement. At that time, we had just started and were completely green, but had a great desire to make a difference in this industry. At the close of the conference, I emailed a thank you and later called Mr. Bailey. He picked up the telephone and he said “who are you?” I introduced our business and he has been our mentor ever since. Through the year, he provided and continues to provide exposure, networks, wisdom, guidance, asks hard questions and expects results. That is how we met our Accountability Coach.

In today’s parlance, being disruptive is usually a positive adjective. But is disrupting always good? When do we say the converse, that a system or structure has ‘withstood the test of time’? Can you articulate to our readers when disrupting an industry is positive, and when disrupting an industry is ‘not so positive’? Can you share some examples of what you mean?

From our vantage point, as Black and Brown career women, disrupting the system or structure of an industry is always good. As the late Congressman John Lewis claimed, we want to get into “good trouble.” Disruptive behavior opens doors, changes mindset, creates innovation and increases productivity. As noted, the cannabis plant is pushing boundaries and ushering in entrepreneurial opportunities that involve plant-touching as well as non-plant touching work. However, when it comes to the involvement of women and racial minorities, at all levels in the industry, cannabis does not produce a “high:”

According to the 2022 report, “Diversity, Equity & Inclusion in the Cannabis Industry,” women holding executive positions in the cannabis industry grew by only a percentage point over the past year, to 23.1%. That’s down sharply from 36.8% in 2019, before the COVID-19 pandemic. The number is also below national averages for all businesses. The U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics (BLS) reported that 29.1% of chief executives at mainstream companies in 2021 were women, a number that has been rising steadily since the government started tracking the statistic in 2003.

In the cannabis space, executive positions held by racial minorities fell to a new low for the group since MJBizDaily began tracking the number in 2017, dropping to 12.1% in 2022 from 13.1% in 2021. That’s well below the average for all U.S. businesses: The BLS estimated last year that racial minorities accounted for 20.1% of all CEOs.

Given these statistics, The Collective feels compelled to challenge the status quo and be a part of the solution to disrupt the cannabis industry.

Can you share 3 of the best words of advice you’ve gotten along your journey? Please give a story or example for each.

1. BE PREPARED

2. KNOW WHEN TO PIVOT

3. PERSEVERE, DON’T QUIT

Be Prepared: Become an industry expert and assemble a “bench” of resources/partners

Know When to Pivot: Incorporate flexibility: if what you are doing is not getting results, you may need to reach your objective in a different manner.

Persevere, DON’T QUIT: Staying in business is not easy, there will be times when you want to quit and it is during those times that you have to persevere and stay focused on your goal.

We are sure you aren’t done. How are you going to shake things up next?

We need to keep focused on our current business ventures. However, areas of interest always involve education and R&D.

In your opinion, what are the biggest challenges faced by ‘women disruptors’ that aren’t typically faced by their male counterparts?

Access to capital and bias in the business world (conscious & unconscious)

Do you have a book/podcast/talk that’s had a deep impact on your thinking? Can you share a story with us?

The Bible as a spiritual guide, not as religious doctrine, for maximizing individual and collective best lives. It provides hope and strategies for perseverance. Its principles can be applied to the community, our business endeavors and our everyday lives.

You are a person of great influence. If you could inspire a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger. 🙂

Self-Love: If we (individuals, systems and structures) gave each person the space to accept himself/herself/themselves collectively, we would open the door to massive creativity, innovation and productivity.

Can you please give us your favorite “Life Lesson Quote”? Can you share how that was relevant to you in your life?

The “Golden Rule: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”. We all want to be treated fairly and with respect.

“A goal is a dream with a deadline.” If you want to accomplish something, you must do the work with a deadline — otherwise it is simply a wish.

How can our readers follow you online?

Website: https://goodmrng.com/

Instagram: @goodmrngcbd

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/goodmrngcbd

This was very inspiring. Thank you so much for joining us!


Female Disruptors: Peggy Brug of MRNG On The Three Things You Need To Shake Up Your Industry was originally published in Authority Magazine on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.

Bill Rossi On How Extremely Busy Leaders Make Time To Be Great Parents

An Interview With Candice Georgiadis

Communicate with your child about how you can be a better parent. When I say communicate, I literally mean ask your children how you can be better for them. These kinds of conversations communicate an open environment in the relationship where your child will be honest about what you can do better as a parent. Without the parent initiating these conversations, the things your child wishes you did will never be conveyed.

As a part of my series about “How extremely busy executives make time to be great parents” I had the pleasure to interview Bill Rossi.

Bill Rossi is an entrepreneur and veteran business leader in the Chicago area, as well as a devoted partner and father of twin girls, an inspirational LGBTQ+ advocate and a passionate proponent of health and fitness. He is frequently called upon to share the stories behind his many successful professional endeavors, as well as the challenges and achievements that have been part of his personal journey as a member of the LGBTQ+ community and as someone who suffers from the heart condition, hypertrophic obstructive cardiomyopathy (HCM).

Thank you so much for joining us! Can you tell us your “childhood backstory”? Can you share the story about what brought you to this specific point in your career?

I have always been a competitive person by nature. I used to compete in a lot of sports and was involved in high level strength training. However, during my late 20s, I was diagnosed with a genetic heart condition, Hypertrophic Cardiomyopathy, which put a stop to any physical type of activity. So, being the very competitive person that I am, I put all that competitive energy into my work. I never liked monotony in the first place, and pairing that with a drive to accomplish great things, I became a serial entrepreneur. I loved it. I loved the diversity and that combined with my competitive nature got me to where I am today.

Can you tell us a bit more about what your day-to-day schedule looks like?

As an entrepreneur with ownership in a handful of companies, I never get a day off. There is never a break. For my day-to-day schedule, I get up relatively early and check my email before even getting out of bed, because I get roughly 400 to 500 emails a day. When working with different entities from different cities with hundreds of employees, the amount of information that comes to me adds up. I am always facilitating emails and guiding companies throughout the day. I aim to end my work day at 5 pm every single day. In the evenings, I go to the gym 5 to 6 days a week for about an hour before spending time with my family. We might watch something as a family or go out for dinner, and, once I get home, I put my children to bed. After my children go to bed, I’ll usually work from then until anywhere between 10 and midnight. I would say I typically work a couple hours every night. Work, quote on quote, really is seven days a week — that’s why it’s so important for me to have that competitive drive and spirit.

Let’s now jump to the core of our discussion. This is probably intuitive to many, but it would be beneficial to spell it out. Based on your experience or research, can you flesh out why not spending time with your children can be detrimental to their development?

I do not have actual research, but I did minor in psychology and one of my courses was child psychology so I know the importance of parents spending time with their children. I’ve always looked at it as the parent being their child or children’s role model. You set the example for them throughout life and that starts from the minute they’re born. As they are growing, you always have to lead by example. Similar to what you do in business, that’s what you do with your children. For example, I never cuss in front of my kids, ever. It doesn’t make sense to tell children to avoid something you yourself do in front of them — you have to set a good example.

As a gay man, my partner and I had to pay six figures between legal fees, agency fees, donor fees and surrogacy fees to have our own biological children. For other couples, it can be much easier to have children, and many people haven’t had to go through the committed process my partner and I have had to. We made a conscious decision to bring children into this world. Because of that conscious choice, I have also made a conscious choice to spend as much time as I possibly can with them. I want to give them a really good life and give them the luxuries in life that I didn’t have growing up.

On the flip side, can you give a few reasons or examples about why it is so important to make time to spend with your children?

In romantic relationships, cheating or scandalous behavior is often caused by one or both of the parties not doing something in that relationship. That behavior causes people to stray. In similar ways, if you don’t pay attention to what your children are doing, they’re going to stray, whether that be hanging out with bad kids or making bad choices. I try to stay extremely involved in my kids’ lives while at the same time not smother them. I want to know every single friend they have because you are a product of your environment and birds of a feather flock together. I know in my childhood whenever I did something bad growing up it was because I was around kids who made bad choices. Based on my own experiences growing up, and watching other’s experiences, I want to make sure I stay present in my children’s’ lives and know what they’re doing.

However, I am not a helicopter parent. I let them live their life. I let them make choices and decisions. I try to guide them as best as I can and give them the information they need because they are going to make mistakes. But that is how you learn. In the end and in my opinion, I feel like if you are not present in your kids’ lives, there is a lack of caring on your part.

According to this study cited in the Washington Post, the quality of time spent with children is more important than the quantity of time. Can you give a few stories or examples from your own life about what you do to spend quality time with your children?

One of the most important examples I can give is that, for the past seven years, my children have participated in an elite level soccer club that has activities five days a week. I have literally missed less than a handful of games (even the ones in other states) in those seven years. By making it a priority to watch them play at practice or a game, I am able to be present for something that is extremely important to them. Same goes with academics: when they do things in school, like receive honors or even to be inducted to the National Honor Society, I make it my number one priority to attend.

This story I am about to tell is not a joke. After I had open heart surgery, I went to one of their soccer games on the way home from the hospital after being discharged. Every other person at the game that day thought I was crazy, but I wanted nothing more than to watch my children play, because I hadn’t seen my children for a few days, the two most important people on the planet to me, for four whole days after going through something that could have potentially killed me. That is an example of what happens when you care about your children and want to be involved in their lives.

Can you share with our readers 5 strategies about how we can create more space in our lives in order to give our children more quality attention? Please include examples or stories for each, if you can.

The number one aspect I would preach to people who are working on their relationship with their kids is to implement boundaries, especially with external forces such as work life. As mentioned before in the interview, you need to be a part of your child’s life in order to make sure they are around the right people and on the right path for success. Boundaries help to ground you and refocus your attention on your priorities, your children. By setting work-related or other types of boundaries for yourself, you have more space to create and foster a relationship that benefits your kids and overall family.

The second strategy would be to make a concerted effort to be there for your child. The work you have will never go away, life never stops moving, but you need to make an effort to be there because as all parents know the time flies and suddenly your kids will be full grown adults. As I mentioned earlier, even with a busy schedule and tons of work, I will make an effort to take my laptop and work as I watch my children practice for their soccer team.

I also think that, when we set aside that time, we need to make sure we appreciate it. Fully unplug and have quality time with each kid separately and together. For example, our family used to go to the Lake of the Ozarks every single year and it was amazing because of the quality time we were able to have while we were away from our phones (you don’t get very good reception in the Ozarks). In everyday life we are so plugged into technology to the point where it is almost vital to have time to unplug, especially with your family.

The fourth strategy is to learn how to adapt as a parent. For anyone that is not a full-time parent, life and work can be difficult to juggle at times. The skill of adapting is used to create quality, not quantity, time for your children. By adapting and changing your own schedule for meaningful events your children have, they will notice and appreciate your presence more than if you are there more often but not fully engaged.

Finally, communicate with your child about how you can be a better parent. When I say communicate, I literally mean ask your children how you can be better for them. These kinds of conversations communicate an open environment in the relationship where your child will be honest about what you can do better as a parent. Without the parent initiating these conversations, the things your child wishes you did will never be conveyed.

How do you define a “good parent”? Can you give an example or story?

Being a “good parent” is up for interpretation. I am the type of individual that does not put people in boxes like that. If the child is cared for and is living a happy life, that is the only thing that is important to me.

How do you inspire your child to “dream big”? Can you give an example or story?

When I show my kids all that I have accomplished and the honors I receive, I tell them what I have told them since they were little: you have to do what you love. You have to love what you do and you have to like the people you work with, because you are going to be doing it for the rest of your life. I’ve tried putting that impression on them since they were little. I also tell them you can be anything you want to be. Both of them want to be professional soccer players and I just tell them to put their mind to it, set the goal, and you can accomplish anything you put your mind to. My job is to just give constant reinforcement when they have their bad times to help them get their confidence back and to never give up on their dreams.

How do you, a person who masterfully straddles the worlds of career and family, define “success”?

I define success as achieving the goals that you put in front of yourself, so personally, I will never hit that point of “success”. After all, while many of the goals I set around 10 years ago have been accomplished, I’m always setting and striving for new goals, whether they’re financial, material, or a different focus completely. I am always striving for continued happiness and success in my life.

What are your favorite books, podcasts, or resources that inspire you to be a better parent? Can you explain why you like them?

I don’t have much time to listen to podcasts, although I wish I did. I do read a lot of executive coaching books because there’s always something new to learn. “Traction: Get a Grip on Your Business” by Gino Wickman is one of my favorite books of all time. Other favorite books of mine are “The Five Dysfunctions of a Team” by Patrick Lencioni and “You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life” by Jen Sincero.

Can you please give us your favorite “Life Lesson Quote”? Can you share how that was relevant to you in your life?

My heart problem has definitely given me a different perspective on life. My favorite quote is, “Live everyday as if it’s your last.” As I’ve mentioned, there is no cure for Hypertrophic Cardiomyopathy and I don’t know when my last day will be so I try to make a conscious effort to live every day to the fullest extent.

If you could inspire a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be?

Currently, I’m working with the Hypertrophic Cardiomyopathy Association to create an HCM Awareness Day and to pass legislation for the HCM Act in all 50 states. Since not many people are aware of HCM even though it is the 2nd most common form of inherited heart disease, I want to bring awareness to the general public on what my heart condition is and, in turn, get more people tested for it while we’re also encouraging medical professionals to one day find a cure.

I’m also trying to make the world a better place simply by spreading and showing kindness. I believe that everyone can always work to be a little bit kinder in this world.

Thank you so much for these insights! This was so inspiring!


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Women In Wellness: Sarah Aspinall of Breaking Ballet On The Five Lifestyle Tweaks That Will Help…

Women In Wellness: Sarah Aspinall of Breaking Ballet On The Five Lifestyle Tweaks That Will Help Support People’s Journey Towards Better Wellbeing

An Interview With Candice Georgiadis

Take a “boredom break”. Every day we need to carve out time — even just 5 minutes — to calm the mind and body to relieve stress. Some people don’t want to meditate, or can’t get out for a walk in the countryside, but they can sit still and do nothing for 5 minutes. No reading, no scrolling through social media. Just sitting and being bored for 5 minutes. See what comes up for you.

As a part of my series about women in wellness, I had the pleasure of interviewing Sarah Aspinall, Founder of Breaking Ballet — trained dancer, registered ballet teacher, and certified NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) coach, Time Line Therapy and Hypnosis Practitioner.

Sarah, 46, from Hertfordshire, UK, helps busy women prioritise their health and fitness using short and effective ballet-inspired workouts. Sarah’s debut book, ‘Move — How to make exercise happen your way’, went straight in at Number 1 on the Amazon bestseller charts in multiple categories for both paperback and Kindle. Sarah created Breaking Ballet in 2017, after losing touch with her body and feeling chained to her desk, and she has since grown a thriving community of over 18,000 women online across 22 countries, and is proud to have changed the lives of more than 1000 women through her work. Along with her fitness programme, Sarah also shares insightful videos on her Youtube channel to an audience of over 3K subscribers.

Thank you so much for joining us in this interview series! Our readers would love to “get to know you” better. Can you share your “backstory” with us?

Growing up in Wales I was a painfully shy child. In order to bring me out of my shell, my mum took me along to a ballet class at the age of two and ballet became a huge part of my life from then on. I gained a scholarship to ballet school at the age of 14, but didn’t go because my parents wanted me to follow a more traditional career path. After university, I pursued a career in law and worked for over 10 years as a litigation lawyer at a City firm in London.

But in taking that route, I started to let the things I loved fall away. I was chained to my desk for long hours every day, I didn’t have time to think about my wellbeing and stopped dancing altogether.

I realised that I wasn’t happy and needed to try and find a better way of living for the sake of my mental health and wellbeing. I knew exercise was an important part of that, but I couldn’t find anything that really inspired me, until I found a New York City Ballet Workout class. This reminded me that I had danced because I loved it — it was my passion and it happened to keep me in shape. So why not do that now? That love could help me to get back into fitness and reconnecting with who I really was. I realised I could do fitness and life my way. That realisation set me on a path to reconnect with my passion and make my living from it, by training to become a dance teacher.

Fast forward a few years and I am now running Breaking Ballet, a unique online ballet fitness programme for busy women, serving a thriving community of over 18,000 women across 22 countries.

Movement was the real catalyst for change. It gave me back my confidence, the discipline to re-train and overcome associated anxieties of leaving a successful corporate career. It gave me structure and routine, enabled me to set boundaries and, most importantly, it allowed me to re-connect with myself and discover a whole new way of existing.

But the benefits are not only physical. I know that not everyone finds it easy to motivate themselves, or commit to exercising regularly both to stay fit and healthy, but also to optimise their mental wellbeing. From my own experience, it’s clear to me that exercise is an essential part of mental strength and wellbeing and so I also qualified as a Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Hypnosis and Time Line Therapy practitioner to to provide that missing link to help women realise their potential.

In November 2022 I published my debut book “Move — how to make exercise happen your way”.

Can you share the most interesting story that happened to you since you started your career? What were the main lessons or takeaways from that story?

The day I turned 30 changed the course of my life completely. I was on holiday in New York with my best friend, taking a break from my stressful job, when we were mugged at gunpoint. When the mugger took us down an alley and told us to turn around, I remember holding my friend’s hand thinking that was going to be the last moment of my life. It wasn’t and the mugger ran off. We then spent the night with the police trying to identify him. A day later, I was back at work in London and on my way home that evening I was assaulted by a gang of young men, only to be saved by a passing police car.

Over the course of the next few weeks, those incidents made me reevaluate my entire life.

Within two years of my 30th birthday and that fateful evening in New York, I had left my legal career, was married, pregnant with my first child, and was training at the Royal Academy of Dance to become a ballet teacher. My ambition was someday to own my own ballet school for children, but my journey led me down a different path as my interests and passions evolved into something more focused on adults.

It has been said that our mistakes can be our greatest teachers. Can you share a story about a mistake you made when you were first starting? Can you tell us what lesson you learned from that?

I don’t think I have ever had one big mistake — just lots of smaller ones! Moving from a legal career to teaching ballet/fitness was a big leap, but it was taking it online that was the hardest part. Looking back now, I didn’t have a clue what I was doing, so if I could do it all again, I would probably have invested in the right business coach in order to streamline things from the start. That said, I think we all learn from our mistakes, so I wouldn’t be where I am today if I hadn’t made them.

Let’s jump to our main focus. When it comes to health and wellness, how is the work you are doing helping to make a bigger impact in the world?

My work is impacting women in their 40s and beyond all over the globe. Helping them not only to strengthen and tone their bodies, but bringing more self-awareness to their ageing bodies and giving them a community of like-minded women to support them along the way. Our bodies change and so must the way we approach health and fitness. Breaking Ballet’s aim is to encourage women to feel good about themselves and their lives, to achieve strength and grace in movement and show them that strong bodies can also be feminine.

Can you share your top five “lifestyle tweaks” that you believe will help support people’s journey towards better wellbeing? Please give an example or story for each.

  1. Reframe the idea of traditional exercise to make it more convenient and in keeping with your lifestyle. You can do this by changing your movement patterns at home by making some of your daily habits a bit more inconvenient, in order to move your body more. For example, if you always place your dinner plates on the upper left hand corner of the bottom shelf in the cupboard, what happens if you move them to the upper right hand corner of the top shelf? It creates a slightly different movement pattern to the ones you are used to. We don’t need to be working out for hours on end each week. Just 15 minutes a day is enough as long as we are consistent and changing our movement patterns regularly.
  2. Place exercise equipment somewhere it doesn’t traditionally belong. A balance board in your kitchen or a Bosu ball in your lounge, so that when you are chatting with your family while making dinner, you can hop on the balance board for a few minutes to improve your strength and overall balance. If you are in the lounge watching TV you can do some sit ups on the Bosu ball. I have also installed a pull up bar in the doorway of the spare bedroom and do a few when I’m walking past each day. (The benefit to this tip is that the rest of the family end up getting involved — especially if they are competitive!). Bodyweight training, or strengthening workouts are vital for women to maintain bone and muscle mass as we age.
  3. The 80% rule. Stop eating when you are 80% full. Taken from “Power 9”, or longevity lessons (a distillation of the findings of medical researchers, anthropologists, demographers and epidemiologists from research of the Blue Zones). The 20% gap between not being hungry and feeling full could be the difference between losing weight or gaining it. Focus on ensuring every meal contains protein. This is particularly important for women in their 40s and beyond and will also keep you fuller for longer.
  4. Set an alarm to go to bed. We set one to wake up, but if we are serious about getting our 7–8 hours sleep a night, set an alarm to go to bed. And go! Don’t then start emptying the dishwasher, putting another load of washing on or tidying the house. Research shows that lack of sleep increases cravings for sweets, carbohydrate-rich foods and salty snacks by between 30–40%. It can also lead to lack of energy, which means you are less likely to exercise.
  5. Take a “boredom break”. Every day we need to carve out time — even just 5 minutes — to calm the mind and body to relieve stress. Some people don’t want to meditate, or can’t get out for a walk in the countryside, but they can sit still and do nothing for 5 minutes. No reading, no scrolling through social media. Just sitting and being bored for 5 minutes. See what comes up for you.

If you could start a movement that would bring the most amount of wellness to the most amount of people, what would that be?

I would start a lifelong exercise movement for women in their 40s and beyond to ensure they are future-proofing their bodies. Despite a growing awareness surrounding women’s health issues, (and in particular perimenopause and menopause) there remains a gender disparity when it comes to access to fitness. 1 in 3 women do not do enough exercise, and 64% of women wish they could take more time to devote to their physical health. Women’s symptoms can often be ignored and their health problems are under-researched.

To promote lifelong movement for women, I would create a personalised framework that enables women to make the small changes they need to exercise consistently. This would include ways to optimise their physical and social environment, reframe their fitness mindset, discover their fitness identity/personality and practice more self-compassion. Self-awareness is key to making change and I want women to start prioritising themselves and learning as much about their bodies as possible.

What are your “5 Things I Wish Someone Told Me Before I Started” and why?

  1. Balancing work and family life is tricky! I have got much better at separating work and home life, but it’s still a challenge when you run your own business. Where possible, I also involve my children in the business. When my new journal came last Christmas, they were responsible for packing them up into boxes and putting address labels on etc. They really enjoyed it and have been excited to watch the success of my book this time around too.
  2. Invest time in business connections. Running an online business is much harder than in-person and can be quite lonely. I have built wonderful friendships with fellow entrepreneurs over the years and this is what really supports my business as they are the only ones who truly understand what is involved.
  3. Listen to your own intuition. There are plenty of opinions about what you should and shouldn’t be doing with your business and it’s sometimes easy to be swayed into changing your mind about what you are doing or the direction you are heading in. Staying connected to my values and what I enjoy doing has been the biggest learning curve.
  4. Focus on one or two things. At the start of my business I was trying to do too many things at once, which led to overwhelm. It can feel frustrating going a little bit slower than you had planned, but mastering each area before you move on to the next is what builds a strong business.
  5. Ask for help. I was not good at seeking help at the beginning of my business. It was tough to accept that I didn’t know what I was doing in some areas of my business. But the sooner you ask for help from experts and coaches the less time you waste.

Sustainability, veganism, mental health, and environmental changes are big topics at the moment. Which one of these causes is dearest to you, and why?

I am passionate about protecting our mental health and movement is one of the best ways of achieving this. People close to me have suffered with depression and I lost my father to Alzheimers (which I know is a form of dementia and not strictly a mental health issue, but for me keeping a healthy mind/brain is all related). I have suffered with mild anxiety all my life and so know first hand just how important it is to move your body to reduce the (sometimes debilitating) symptoms. I’m also acutely aware of how women can struggle mentally and emotionally with the changes that happen to their ageing bodies through the perimenopausal and menopausal years. This is why my lifelong exercise movement is so important to me.

What is the best way for our readers to further follow your work online?

They can find me at www.breakingballet.com and join our free weekly newsletter at https://breakingballet.com/#newsletter

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/BreakingBallet/

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/breakingballet/

YouTube http://www.youtube.com/@BreakingBallet

Thank you for these fantastic insights! We wish you continued success and good health.


Women In Wellness: Sarah Aspinall of Breaking Ballet On The Five Lifestyle Tweaks That Will Help… was originally published in Authority Magazine on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.